I had an encounter with a Very Mean Person today.
I went to the hospital today to visit my mother. She had back surgery yesterday. She has been having execrating pain in her hip and leg for the past month or two. After being given several diagnoses it was determined that she has degenerative disc disease. Her surgery appears to be a success (so far). While back is in considerable pain, her hip and leg are virtually pain free.
Anyway, enough about her. I'll get to my story, because this blog is all about me. :)
I will preface this story by saying it was entirely my fault. As I returned to my car, I noticed the Lexus next to me very slowly backing out of her parking place. As I approached my truck she rolled down her window, pointed at my truck and asked if it belonged to me. I told her it was, and politely asked if there was a problem. She very angrily replied that I had parked so close to her car that she had to crawl in on the passenger side. ---I would like to point out that I drive a giant Ford Excursion and occasionally have trouble maneuvering it into parking places.--- I told her I was very sorry to inconvenience her. Then she wanted to where the hell did I get my drivers license. I once again told her how sorry I was, that is was an accident on my part, and that I would be more careful next time. She then looked my up and down and told me that I was a "stupid, fat bitch. I was dumbstruck, to say the least. I had the presence of mind to not stoop to her level. I calmly replied, "At least I'm not mean." At that point she squealed off in a huff. Well, as much as you can squeal off in a busy hospital parking lot.
As soon as I climbed into my truck I started crying hysterically. I continued to cry all the way home. By the time I got home I was a hot mess. Bill and the children hugged me and talked soothingly to me until I calmed down.
Later on, after I had a chance to calm down, I was able to able to reassess the situation. Maybe she had just gotten
some bad news a the hospital. Maybe she was royally ticked at me for the way I parked. Or maybe she just has anger issues.
I meditated for a few minutes to clear my head. I reminded myself that I had to own the situation, accept my responsibility and let it go. I cleared out the negative energy and immediately felt better.
The lesson I learned from this is to be patient and kind to others, especially when they are irritating or frustrating me.